Boundaries and what we will is almost as important as what we won’t. Often we speak of what we won’t do but what we will is another story. I know because I was one of ’em. We don’t know what is not acceptable until we cross a boundary so that is, until we learn. I, had to learn. I had to come to know myself and so a condition of mine is that you be able to fully communicate them no matter how uncomfortable they can get.

For a long time, I didn’t appropriately communicate my boundaries because I spoke them and I promise you, nobody gets that. You must act instead. And when you feel a boundary being crossed you must immediately address it.

I respect most boundaries once I am aware of them. A condition of mine is that you do also. A goal of mine is to treat people how I want to be treated but I’d have to admit all the times even I was not kind to myself. I allowed myself to disrespect my own boundaries and thus those outside of me did as well. People will treat you how you treat yourself. Before you check them, check yourself. They won’t respect you if you won’t respect yourself. But be honest with yourself, because you have to be honest with them. Who are you? Introduce that person to them.

For about five years I sat in isolation, and I covered myself. I found out what many think of me and that led to what I think of them as well. I was all about self-discovery, and I discovered a lot about myself. Some I was happy to learn and some that made me cringe, so I was all about setting new boundaries that would rectify where I had failed.

I then wanted to share that because I remember a time when this wasn’t hard but I am no longer “her” now and I am heavily guarded. Whether that is good or not for those around me is to be discovered but I am not emerging because of them. It is in spite of that I rise again and again and seek out what I am missing.

My goal is to introduce who I have become as I have not changed that much I am just more of what I was. I am free to be me, myself, Ms. Phoenix Rising. She, is whom I chose though “I”, will not be forgotten. She too was and is an incredible soul, but she was a child and today I present as a grown, fiery woman ready to move forward. And I am proud to be here. We have made it this far and are now bursting with main character energy. The fire ignited from the spark of a flame that is no more but still lingers.

I will share my stories and those of others weaving reality and fiction into something creative and sweet, that is, an ode to my lovers that are no longer here but who have helped to shape and mold me and my boundaries.

Join me. I am,

~ Ms. Phoenix Rising

Erotic Writer and Content Creator seeking her muse